10 Sincere Thoughts on Not Inviting the Groom’s Human Dementor Friend to the Wedding

By: Elizabeth Ervin
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March 12, 2023

A woman, we’ll call Kim, recently announced she and her soon-to-be-husband Max have been dating for six years and are getting married in July.

Kim asked Max not to invite his friend Sebastian. They met at school, aren’t best friends, but text and video call while visiting for parties and events.

Kim clarified she was not a bridezilla, but Max immediately said no, which was the end of the conversation. She reiterated, “I’m not a crazy bride,” before explaining Sebastian is “the most Debbie Downer person” she’s ever met.

She elaborated that Sebastian defined the person who changes tha ambiance of a chill mood to collectively bringing everyone down. He’s a “sweet guy” and a “great friend too,” but she doesn’t want him to kill the vibe.

Kim explained the last time they all got together with friends. They discussed having children, getting older, grey hair, and wrinkles.

Still, Sebastian gave some depressing story of not seeing himself turn 30. Everyone laughed it off, but she didn’t find it funny. “He’s like a human Dementor.”

Finally, she clarified that Max wasn’t upset with her, but he told his mother, and she felt the judgment coming from her during their last visit.

“As I said, I’m not a bridezilla, and Sebastian is going to the wedding. So it isn’t that deep! But am I the bad guy for suggesting that?” Here is how the internet responded.

1. Bridezilla

The fact that Kim stated she wasn’t a bridezilla and then reiterated the statement caused one user to call her out by saying, “That’s exactly what a bridezilla would say.”

2. Dry Humor

One questioned how making the statement about turning 30 was dry humor and Kim would never make it in Britain with her lack of sense of humor.

3. You Are the Judgmental One

“You feel judged?” This user questioned how Kim would make a statement when she was judging her future husband’s friend, who has a history and cares deeply.

4. It’s Called Compromise

“It’s called compromise.” For example, one user explained that Sebastian gets the invite because he’s important to Max and has a long-standing relationship with him. They further stated that it’s likely Kim has friends Max is less enthusiastic about, and that’s where compromise comes in.

5. All You Did Was Ask

Many in the thread acknowledged that all Kim did was ask about it, and she accepted the answer. She’s not fighting about it; it didn’t cause a rift in their relationship. Part of marriage is open and honest communication.

6. Every Bridezilla Says They Aren’t a Bridezilla

One noted that every bridezilla says and believes they aren’t one, so hearing someone say it is not convincing and does the opposite. It makes you think Kim is one.

7. Drop It

“As long as you drop it and don’t bring it up again!” This user agreed with many others that Kim is entitled to ask questions and that she wasn’t the bad guy, provided she doesn’t continue to harp on Max.

8. You Are the Bad Guy

However, many others disagreed. One suggested that Sebastian isn’t a bad guy, hasn’t done anything but be himself, and is by her definition a “great friend” to her future husband.’

9. I Wouldn’t Want Him There Either

Somebody confessed their boyfriend has a friend who always brings the mood down and has something negative to say. It’s depressing, and the user clarified she wouldn’t want that energy at her wedding either.

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10. Talk to Sebastian

Finally, someone asked Kim why she didn’t just have an honest conversation with Sebastian and tell him that they wanted to keep the mood light and ask him, “Could you help us keep things positive?”

What do you think? This thread inspired this post.


This article was inspired by the internet and did not necessarily reflect the views of The Budget Savvy Bride.


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