40 Women Talk About What They Would Have Changed About Their Wedding, And I’ve Never Even Considered Some Of These

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“I would not have told anybody about my wedding plans. Everyone felt that they knew better than us. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law lost their shit over my flower selection. My mom told me I was an embarrassment over my catering selection. When showing my aunt my Pinterest board for wedding dresses, she literally said, ‘I know your style is better than this; these are terrible. It’s a good thing that I caught it before you bought anything.’ I still did everything that I wanted, and the day was lovely and everyone enjoyed and behaved themselves. But I could have saved myself a ton of misery if I had only kept my mouth shut about my plans.”

“Mind you, my husband and I paid for everything ourselves. Up until the morning of our wedding day, the women in my family were trying to pressure me into making changes and spending money that I didn’t have. I wish that instead of wasting all my energy on defending my choices, apologizing, and then second-guessing my plans, I spent that time enjoying being engaged. 

It seems petty because it is only a one-day event. But seeing how judgmental and pushy they all were in trying to bully me into each of their own specific tastes really opened my eyes, and has caused a bit of a ‘strain in those relationships.’ Read: I’m no longer the easy-to-manipulate pushover they all needed me to be.”

—u/CatherineO1