Weddings can make or break relationships — be it familial, romantic or platonic — and two friends are currently discovering that fact for themselves the hard way.
A bride is currently fighting with her friend, who is a seamstress, as the bride believes the seamstress should make her wedding dress free of charge.
Instead, the seamstress offered the soon-to-be-newlywed a discount, saying she will make the dress for £600 (aprox. $1115) — a quarter of the price she would normally charge other customers — because they are friends.
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A bride is pushing for her seamstress friend to make her wedding dress for free, even though the seamstress offered to do it for a quarter of the price. (Getty Images/Cultura RF)
This was unacceptable for the bride, who believes that the wedding dress should count as a wedding gift, and wants her friend to make the dress for the cost of the materials.
Taking to Reddit, the seamstress explained on r/AmITheA–hole that it’s not unusual for her to feel like a “personal seamstress” for her friends, but when her friend got engaged, it went to the next level.
The bride, who is also pregnant, sent the seamstress an idea of the style of dress she was looking for, and although the seamstress said it wasn’t a simple design, it wasn’t the most complex type of dress they’d had to tackle either.
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The seamstress asked if she was being unreasonable in refusing to make it for free. (Reddit)
“I told her I could for sure do that for her and it’d cost £600, she was shocked at this and told me she thought I’d do it for free and she’d just pay for materials, I pointed out how many hours this would take me to do and all the hand embroidery needed, then I explained I was doing this for a quarter of the price I’d charge other people because she’s my friend,” the seamstress explained.
The bride then apparently became “very upset,” and told the seamstress how stressed she was due to wedding planning, her pregnancy, and being low on funds throughout.
She then suggested to the seamstress that it be her wedding gift to the bride, and that it would look “great” in her portfolio.
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Part of the seamstress’ hesitation is the fact that the bride wants a heap of hand embroidery on her dream dress. (Getty Images/iStockphoto)
“I don’t think I’m being unreasonable to want some money for this…but other friends are telling me it’s horrible how I’m wanting to charge her for this and it’s not like I’m a high end bridal shop,” the seamstress said in her post. “Am I being unreasonable?”
Reddit commenters think the bride is the one being unreasonable.
“It takes time to do the work. And you already lowered the price. I don’t like how they tried to use their pregnancy to get you to do it for free,” the top comment, which has over 4500 upvotes, said.
“Some of my former classmates would charge extra for the pregnancy as it’ll mean more adjustments than normal over the coming weeks. I don’t agree with it but I know that’s a thing,” the seamstress revealed in her reply.
Another commenter said that having photos for a portfolio doesn’t pay the rent, to which the seamstress replied: “Yeah I wish it did, I’d live like a Queen with my portfolio in that case.”
The seamstress also said in the comments that “there is no way in hell” the bride will be able to find a dress cheaper than the £600 the seamstress offered, saying that £600 is what the seamstress thought was “reasonable” considering the bride wanted a heap of hand embroidery on the dress.
“She wants you to do lots of hand embroidery for free? For just the cost of materials, because her money is tight? Hell no,” one commenter wrote.
“People short on funds need to moderate their decoration dreams, and if all those friends think otherwise they need to pick up a needle and thread and get embroidering.”
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