Sibling Backed for Not Singing Original Song at Sister’s Wedding

The internet has defended a sibling who didn’t want to perform an original song at their sister’s wedding in a new post going viral on social media.

Published to Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a sibling under the username u/AppointmentBoring609 shared their story in order to get the opinions of many to see if they were in the wrong for saying no to their sister. The viral post has over 8,000 upvotes and 900 comments. You can read the post here.

“I’m a sucker for music and songwriting,” the Reddit user began, “I haven’t written many songs, let alone record. But I had good inspiration and I wrote a very touchy one for my girlfriend who I’ve been with for 3 years. I even synthesised music for it and I want to record it and personally give it to my gf since its special for us.”

The original poster’s (OP) family wanted to hear the song they’ve been working hard on. When they did, their sister loved the song so much that she wanted them to play the song at her wedding. The user told them they could try to write a song in time for their big day if they had enough inspiration. They told their sister that the song is very personal to them and that they didn’t want to perform the song.

The internet has backed a sibling for refusing to sing an original song they wrote for their girlfriend at their sister’s wedding.
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They wrote, “She then pulled the ‘it’s my wedding’ card. ‘I’m your sister. Can’t you do me this favor? Can’t you make your sister happy?’ I said again, no. I told her I’d try to write one for her and her husband but I’m not playing mine. Plus it would be more touching for me to write their own song.”

“She and my parents then proceeded to claim that it would be more appropriate for me to sing that song for my sister and her husband on their wedding day since they’ve officiated their relationship and are not just bf and gf. That hit the nail on the head for me and I said you know what. F**k you all for what you’re doing. This isn’t fair at all and the fact that you’re undermining my relationship to make a point is s**tty,” they concluded.

Their family is calling them a selfish and uptight person for saying no to their sister’s “small favor.”

Newsweek reached out to u/AppointmentBoring609 for comment.

The Creative Process

“Simply put,” according to Skill Share, “the creative process is the way ideas, art, or creative thinking comes about. Contrary to popular belief, this creative process does have structure. It always begins by gathering inspiration and ultimately culminates with the finished product.”

While there are guides to navigating your creative process, in essence, it’s different for every songwriter. Singer/songwriter Taylor Swift once described her creative process in a Harper’s Bazaar interview with Pattie Boyd.

“There are definitely moments when it’s like this cloud of an idea comes and just lands in front of your face, and you reach up and grab it. A lot of songwriting is things you learn, structure, and cultivating that skill, and knowing how to craft a song.

“But there are mystical, magical moments, inexplicable moments when an idea that is fully formed just pops into your head. And that’s the purest part of my job,” Swift said.

Redditor Reactions

Many readers shared their thoughts and opinions in the comment section, defending the OP.

U/Own-Difference-8674 received the top comment of over 11,000 upvotes for their response, “[Not the a**hole]. Imagine the awkward chitchat with relatives afterwards explaining the inspiration for the song came your relationship with your girlfriend but your sister wanted you to dedicate it to her. My petty side says ok sing it but intro it by saying who you wrote it for!”

“[Not the a**hole]. Sing the song at the wedding, dedicating it to your gf, and then propose at the end of the song,” u/PsychologyAutomatic3 gave the OP an idea.

“[Not the a**hole—your sister sounds very entitled. I wouldn’t even bother trying to write another song. Tell her to go hire a band if she wants it to be special. It is not your responsibility,” u/SamGamgE wrote.

“[Not the a**hole]. They wanted to steal a meaningful song from you by making it about them. They don’t deserve your song,” said u/SandrineSmiles.

Other sibling rivalries on Reddit include a woman who was bashed for how she reacted to the news her sister got engaged.

Redditors also bashed a bride who wanted to wear her twin’s wedding dress after the twin’s fiancé died.

On the other hand, readers backed one man who said he uninvited his brother to his wedding because he wouldn’t adhere to the dress code.