Internet commenters were empathetic after one woman revealed how she inadvertently caused her best friend’s wedding to completely fall apart.
Posting on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, Redditor u/Grand-Notice410 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she despises her best friend’s fiancé and explained how her disdain for the 26-year-old was the ultimate catalyst for the couple’s downfall.
Titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for my best friend’s wedding being called off?” the post has received more than 6,000 votes and 600 comments in the last ten hours.
Describing her best friend’s fiancé as a “cocky frat boy,” the original poster assured that he is “awful,” and speculated about his true motivation for getting married.
“[He] is materialistic and everything is about money,” OP wrote. “He often brags about money…[and] that he’s marrying into money and that they won’t work if they don’t want to.”
“Him running his mouth about their finances alone has caused some tension in her family,” OP added. “Her father even threatened to pull the plug on the wedding.”
Noting that her best friend’s family is “well off,” the original poster said they plan to pay for the wedding, and that her fiancé’s family plans to pay for the ensuing honeymoon. But an argument over the honeymoon’s location served as the beginning of the end for the young couple.
“She wants to go somewhere exotic and beautiful,” OP wrote. “He proposed Vegas [and] found out that he was going to meet some friends there and they were going to hit the casinos.”
“I’m the a**holish friend that suggested she tell him that her family has gone broke and that they are going to have to pay for their wedding and house, to see his true intentions,” OP continued. “I also suggested that she postpone the wedding until they were one the right page or walk away from the relationship.”
“[She] does the a**holish thing I suggested, and he calls off the wedding,” OP added. “I’m now being blamed for ruining her marriage [and told] that I should have never told her such a thing because she was under a lot of stress and wasn’t thinking clearly.”
Weddings, intended to celebrate love and unity, are hotbeds for ulterior motives.
Despite the “marrying for money” stereotype, there is a lack of concrete evidence pointing to overwhelming numbers of singles in the U.S. dating or marrying with the sole intention of upwards financial mobility.
In fact, a 2011 survey conducted by the National Endowment for Financial Education revealed that nearly 60 percent of recently married, or soon to be married couples were unaware of each other’s credit scores before tying the knot.
What evidence does exist, however, shows that money plays a major role in existing relationships and has the power to impact their long term success.
Money—or lack thereof—causes more arguments for married couples than anything else and in 2019, Insider reported that nearly 40 percent of recently divorced couples cited financial issues as a major factor in their separation.
Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum were quick to defend one woman who said she inadvertently caused her best friend’s wedding to fall apart.
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On numerous occasions in her viral Reddit post, the original poster reiterated her suspicions about her best friend’s fiancé and hinted that he only wants to marry because of the potential dollar signs waiting for him at the altar.
Throughout the post’s comment section, Redditors echoed this suspicion and assured the original poster that, although she is currently in a difficult position, her intentions were pure and that she pushed her best friend in the right direction.
“[Not the a**hole],” Redditor u/amish__ wrote in the post’s top comment, which has received nearly 13,000 votes. “In time she will see she dodged a bullet.
“She may never forgive you though,” they warned, plainly. “People are funny.”
Redditor u/RayofSunshine_27, whose comment has received more than 2,000 votes, offered a similar response.
“[Not the a**hole] and you…are my kinda people,” they wrote. “You didn’t MAKE HER do anything.
“You made a snarky comment and she ran with it,” they continued. “And by your version of things, it looks like she dodged a bullet. Give her time to realize it.”
Newsweek reached out to u/Grand-Notice410 for comment.