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Woman Changes Patriarchal Rituals At Sister’s Wedding

Indians can be extremely obsessive when it comes to weddings and the hundreds of rituals and ceremonies that come with them. These rituals are often deeply rooted in patriarchy, often giving importance to the men in the family. 

Seeing as journalist Ria Chopra’s sister was getting ready to walk down the aisle, her family made the extra effort to not leave her out in any of the rituals.

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Woman Tackles Patriarchal Wedding Rituals And Inspires Others To Do The Same

Chopra shared a snap of her sister, Sanjana Chopra’s wedding day. In the picture, Ria stands next to her sister as she holds up the “phoolon ki chadar” which is traditionally held up by the brothers in the family. The flower mesh is held up above the bride’s head while she walks towards her groom for the “varmala” ceremony

Ria revealed her intentions behind holding up the flower mesh in her Instagram caption: “While planning her wedding we often found ourselves questioning and tweaking rituals and traditions that keep sisters out of spaces, preferring brothers and other men instead.” 

She continued, “from holding the phoolon ki chaddar, to doing the tilak, to the pooja in the phere, we decided to include me wherever we could, and the result were some incredibly special and intimate moments that may not have been ‘traditional’ or ‘proper’ but they were right, and they felt right.”

Besides confronting the patriarchal rituals, the journalist also wrote heartwarming words for her sister, “it has been a privilege to grow up with @sanjanachopraaa, to not have known a world where she does not exist, to have this exceptionally wise, steadfast, dedicated, unafraid, vibrant, utterly wonderful sister as my support system.”

Ria went on to add, “She has watched me make mistakes, learn, and grow; she has stood by me in my successes and in my failures; she has saved me and loved me and held my hand through every bit of my twenty three years. my life and who i am would not be the same without her.”

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People On The Internet Were Supportive

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People online were supportive of her decision to tweak the traditional rituals as many applauded Ria with red hearts in the comments section. A user wrote, “This is so heartfelt,” while another added, “Love to you both.” Similar messages of support filled the journalist’s timeline after she posted the picture.  

On Twitter, Ria shared how people reached out to her to share how they got inspired by her brave actions which led to them following in her footsteps. She wrote, “My sister got married earlier this year & I wrote about how we tweaked the wedding ceremonies to let me do rituals traditionally (patriarchally) done by brothers. Today I got a DM from a friend who saw my story & got inspired to ask for the same at her own sister’s wedding too.” 

My sister got married earlier this year & I wrote about how we tweaked the wedding ceremonies to let me do rituals traditionally (patriarchally) done by brothers. Today I got a DM from a friend who saw my story & got inspired to ask for the same at her own sister’s wedding too 🥺 pic.twitter.com/m3mqKwUjwd

— Ria Chopra 🐍 (@riachops) December 17, 2022

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