Online commenters have backed a bride who accused her friend of having an “alcohol problem” in a spat about her having a dry wedding.
Posting in Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) forum under the username u/Mammoth-Middle2910, the bride said her friend called and asked if she was “joking” about having a dry wedding. When she said no, her friend asked how he was “supposed to function” without alcohol. The post has garnered over 9,600 upvotes and more than 3,600 comments. You can read the full post here.
Dry Weddings
Nora Sheils, an event planner and founder of Bridal Bliss, told Newsweek that dry weddings aren’t very common.
“Dry weddings are definitely not a trend,” she said. “If anything…more couples are hosting open bars. They are spoiling their guests with pre-wedding cocktails, a full open bar, signature drinks, and even boozy coffee bars for late nights.”
Sheils also said that “while it’s ok for couples to throw dry weddings,” it’s not “very hospitable.” Still, she reminds guests to be respectful.
Online commenters have backed a bride who accused her friend of having an “alcohol problem” in a spat about her having a dry wedding.
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“A guest is invited to a wedding to celebrate the couple and their union. There should be no expectations,” Sheils said.
“If you are invited to a dry wedding, keep in mind that there are other reasons it may be dry rather than the couple just being cheap. One of them may have addiction issues, or a family member may be an alcoholic,” Sheils continued. “Or maybe they were [worried] about some guests getting out of hand with a bar. Regardless, respect their wishes. And if you must have some booze, then leave early!”
‘AITA’
In her post, u/Mammoth-Middle2910 said she and her fiancé decided to host a dry wedding because neither one drinks, and they “see no point in spending money [on] alcohol.” They included the fact that the wedding would be alcohol-free on their wedding invitations, prompting a phone call from an upset guest.
“A friend called me and asked if I was joking about the dry wedding. I denied it,” she wrote. “Then he asked what was wrong with me, and how is [he] supposed to have fun without alcohol [and] that it was not alright to choose a dry wedding.
“I told him that I was not obligated to provide alcohol just because he is not able to have fun without it. [I also said that] if he needs alcohol so badly, [then] he might [have] an alcohol problem and should consider [therapy],” she continued. “AITA?”
Redditors React
Some of u/Mammoth-Middle2910’s friends said she was wrong to accuse the guest of having an “alcohol problem.” However, many Redditors disagreed.
“NTA [not the a**hole]. Alcohol culture is so dangerous and so normalized. It’s your wedding, your money, so it’s your call anyway. And yes, if someone can’t go an evening without a drink, they likely have a problem,” u/Ok-Athlete-7232 said.
“NTA. It’s your wedding. He and everyone else can go without alcohol for one night. And you’re actually not wrong in suggesting that his anger might be a sign that he needs to evaluate his relationship with alcohol,” u/SilverScimitar13 argued.
u/KetoprofenBaby added: “This is your wedding. Some people want child-free weddings [and] some people want alcohol-free weddings. If your guests think alcohol is crucial to have fun, they have every right to deny the invitation. It’s that simple.”
Newsweek has reached out to u/Mammoth-Middle2910 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.
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